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Do you ever feel like you are finally getting a handle on life? The laundry is caught up, meals are planned for the next week, and you are slowly getting the house organized.  Life is sailing along fairly smooth.  Then life happens.

When Life Gets Overwhelming

Sickness takes place, perhaps a small cold or it could be a full blown virus that knocks the whole family off their feet.  Or there is a family crisis, death or just so many activities going on, you can’t function.

At times like these, it is important to step back and evaluate what you can do to make life simple and get through the sickness, stressful situation or crisis. We all go through seasons.

To make it through these times, we need to make certain of our purpose. What is your goal for your family? Do you have a mission statement for your home and family? Do you have a family and household notebook to turn to as a resource? What do you want your life and family to look like?

Don’t give up when life gets rough. This is difficult, especially if you are a perfectionist. Keep trucking on. Believe me, it does nobody any good, epecially not your house, when you give up. I have been there. I have given up during the hard times of crisis and sickness. The aftermath is much worse when you give up.

Still maintain a routine ~If you have chore charts for your family and a routine that you stick to, it is also a good idea to have an emergency chore chart and routine. This is one that you pull out to go by during times of sickness and crisis to help keep you on track. If you homeschool, have a plan that you use during these times. Or have review books you can use to help you keep getting school completed, but on a smaller scale.

Let go of some ideals~ During difficult times, let go of the plan to wash all the blinds or clean out the basement. Do the necessities to get you through and keep you sane. It is okay not to make your bread or your own laundry detergent during these times. This year, we are having a much smaller garden and I am not canning any this year . I may make some of our favorite sweet pickles, though. My dad loves them. I have been sick all year, my dad has been very sick and we have expanded our farm. I had to let go of some things.

Make your life easier~ Give in and use paper plates, cups, and paper towels. Buy your bread and detergent. Eat out or pick up some meals. Don’t beat yourself up if you have fast food some. Unless a family member’s health will suffer, give yourself a break from real food only, IF this is something that is making life difficult at the moment.

We all go through times that make our heads spin. Sometimes it is just a few days or a week, other times it can stretch on for a long period of time.

Take a deep breath, look at the big picture, realize this is a season and do your best. Let your family know that all will be okay and that you love them. Spend some time snuggling. The rest can wait.

 

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Mary Clendenin

Mary Clendenin lives on the family farm with her husband and 2 sons, whom she home schools. She enjoys farm life with her guys, gardening and making memories with her family. She loves to help others learn how to live a healthier lifestyle, learn about natural remedies and how to do business at home. Mary believes that home and family is your first ministry and a legacy that will live on long after you are gone.

11 Comments

  • Elizabeth says:

    This was excellent advice! I have been there many times! We have seemed to move from one crisis to the next through the years! I have done all of the things you mentioned. thanks for sharing your coping strategies!

    • Mary says:

      Thank you, Elizabeth. I know how it feels to almost dread one crisis for fear of the next one being worse. You have been busy lately!

  • Christina says:

    Let go of some ideals–so true. It’s important to focus on what’s really necessary. I often get so caught up in details that I miss what’s most important. Thanks for this!

    • Mary says:

      You are welcome. It is so easy to get caught up in things and emotions that don’t matter, while letting the important things fall to the wayside. Have a wonderful day!

  • Beth says:

    Thanks for these great tips, Mary! They are practical and realistic. I love it!

    • Mary says:

      You are welcome, Beth. I need a checklist to help me through the rough times….thought others could too. 🙂 Have a great day!

  • Kathy says:

    This is great advice. While I’m sorry you’ve been sick because that’s never fun, thanks for using it as an opportunity to encourage others along the way. I’d love to have you link this up to Titus 2 Tuesday this week on Cornerstone Confessions..

    Hopping over from Women Living Welll.

    Kathy

  • Tanya says:

    I could relate to this post. I have a chronic illness and lately have had more bad days than good. I find myself having to scale back my to do list and do only the most important things on days like that. I am still working on not feeling guilty. I have two teenagers and I let them know they nah have to do a few more chores during this time. Thanks for sharing.

    • Mary says:

      I am sorry you are sick. It is no fun and makes life very hard. The guilt is hard. Try to keep your mind focused on HIm and soak yourself in His Word to give your strength. I will be praying for you!