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Messy, Beautiful Love {Hope for Your Marriage} + Giveaway

Marriage…a beautiful gift from God!! Someone to share your life with, your best friend, your soulmate.

Marriage can be absolutely amazing. It can fill you with such joy and satisfaction. Or can be the deepest pain you feel and leave you feeling a lonely like you have never felt.

We have all been there….on both ends of the spectrum. And we know which end we would rather be on all the time.

But life has a way of dragging you down and pulling you apart. It is a fight to stay on the brighter, happier side of marriage. We go through deep valleys and heart wrenching pain. Each time we go through something difficult, it can either bring us closer together or pull us farther from the one who knows our heart like no other.

We all could use some hope for our marriages that we want to grow stronger in this crazy, messed up world.

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I received this wonderful gift of hope in this brand new book and lovely journal from one of my favorite authors and bloggers, Darlene Schacht.

You may know her best from her blog, Time Warp Wife and the beautiful, encouraging pictures on her Facebook page. You may also remember that she co-authored with Candace Cameron Bure called Reshaping It All.  I met Darlene at Allume Conference a couple of years ago and count her as a friend. She is a very encouraging woman and has a heart for marriage. I am so excited about her new book and know you will love it!  {Keep reading for a chance to win a copy!!}

When you love someone, you want the best

 What is her new book about?

Messy Beautiful Love delivers an incredible testimony of grace that offers hope for today’s marriages and a spark for rekindling love.

Love gets messy.

Financial problems, sickness, aging parents, a chronically unhappy spouse . . . trials will inevitably come that threaten your marriage. No matter how long you’ve been married or how strong your relationship is, sooner or later you are going to have a mess to clean up is about cleaning up messes God’s way, exchanging your ideas for His, and being prepared for both the best and the worst that marriage has to offer.

When you surrender your relationship to God, then and only then will you experience the blessing of marriage as He intended. This is the blessing of obedience.

Messy Beautiful Love is an invitation to that obedience. The cynical world says marriages don’t last, but God knows better. Tune out the world and tune in to Him. When you do that, a beautiful marriage is not only possible, it’s inevitable.


Here is what Darlene has to say about her new book…

Why did you write Messy Beautiful Love and what do you hope it accomplishes?

I wrote it to encourage women in their marriages, and to remind them that they’re not alone on this journey. We all struggle in this life, and if we haven’t yet it’s inevitable that we will. That’s why it’s imperative that we equip ourselves by studying the gospel and keeping our marriage in prayer. Love is a beautiful thing, but the reality is that life is messy at times. When we live out our roles in marriage as God ordained them to be we discover joy and peace unlike anything else.


How is Messy Beautiful Love different from other books on marriage and relationships?

Because I’ve been through a lot in my own marriage, I understand the importance of grace and forgiveness. I offer hope to women where hope would be otherwise lost. Can a broken marriage be repaired? Can a stale relationship be revived? Messy Beautiful Love answers those questions with a resounding “Yes!”


Why is this book important and relevant in today’s culture?

What we’re seeing too often is a society that’s tossing marriage aside. This world is cynical when it comes to marriage, believing most won’t last. And those that do last? Well, surely one spouse or the other must be a miserable soul. That’s what we tend to see when we look at the standard this world has to offer.

God’s standard, on the other hand, is rich. He offers abundant life to those who are exercised by faith. We serve a God who’s the same yesterday, today and forever. The beauty of the marriage covenant hasn’t changed over time—our view of it has. Those who give up too soon are missing out on the blessings that come with staying the course.


What is the main piece of advice you would give women in today’s world, who want to approach their marriage differently?

Women in today’s world are exposed to temptation on a constant basis. The Internet is a way of life for most people.

Our ancestors never experienced anything remotely close to what we are living with today. The outside world—along with its opinions, temptations, and distractions—has made its way into our homes.

I can’t tell you the number of times that women have confided in me about the struggles they’re facing online. It can mess with your mind when a seemingly perfect man (and I do mean seemingly) is paying attention to you, or waiting to chat.

We need to be on guard more than ever before, protecting our thoughts, our children, our faith, and our marriages.


Who do you think will benefit most from Messy Beautiful Love, and why?

Women who are seeking more for their marriage will benefit most from my book. More than a story or simply feel-good information, Messy Beautiful Love challenges women to grow in love by putting Christ at the center of marriage.

I’m a cracked vessel held together by grace, whose deepest desire is to encourage you in your marriage. I don’t have it all figured out, and I doubt that I ever will, but I’m learning to lean on the One who does. I’m learning that when I follow His wisdom in lieu of my own, I’m walking in peace, and that peace floods into my marriage. 


Your book is called, Messy Beautiful Love. Can you tell us why you chose that name?

We all have expectations when we’re stepping into marriage. And if you’re like most women, those expectations are high, but the reality is that life gets messy. Whether it’s financial problems, sickness, aging parents, or an unhappy spouse, sooner or later we’ll have a mess to clean up.

But when we surrender our relationship to God in obedience to His will, we experience the blessings of marriage as He intended.  That’s a beautiful thing.


Darlene is hosting 31 Days of Prayer for Our Marriages on her blog. You can catch up and follow along here.

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Mary Clendenin

About Mary Clendenin

Mary Clendenin lives on the family farm with her husband and 2 sons, whom she home schools. She enjoys farm life with her guys, gardening and making memories with her family. She loves to help others learn how to live a healthier lifestyle, learn about natural remedies and how to do business at home. Mary believes that home and family is your first ministry and a legacy that will live on long after you are gone.


  • Marcell says:

    We have been married almost 54 years!!

  • Steph Johnson says:

    I have been married to my husband for 12 years, and we dated for 8 years prior to that. This book would be a blessing to anyone. I hope to receive this for the encouragement the God speaks through Darlene’s writing. I also hope to share the blessing with other wives by talking about it (I love to talk 🙂

  • Beth says:

    We have been married 17 years.

  • Lynn says:

    I’ve been married for 8 years. This is my third marriage and I want to do this one right.

  • Darcey says:

    I have been married for 15 years. We have had a rough marriage. Could use this book to help with our marriage during our current trials.

  • Jennie says:

    It will be 10 years on New Years Eve!!

  • Tamara says:

    I have been married for 24 for years. Before surrendering to Jesus things were not very good. Now with us on the right path, things are better, but very messy. It is hard to go forward with so much negative history behind you.

  • Kristin says:

    I’ve been married just over 3 years. While still being considered a young married, my husband is the senior pastor and I would love to get another resource to strengthen our marriage (especially w/ expecting our first child!) and also to use to be an encouragement to the ladies in our church and that I interact with that are married or about to get married.

  • Becky says:

    My husband and I have been married almost 12 years! 🙂

  • Amber B. says:

    My husband and I have been married for 14 years. I’d love to win this book because I’d love to read Darlene’s encouraging words!!

  • Carrie says:

    In two days we will be celebrating our 24th anniversary. Messy is exactly how our marriage has been over the years. Always looking to make it better!

  • Melinda Wood says:

    I have been married for 3 years to my darling. I would love to read this book because I want to know I’m doing the best I can with marriage and utilizing all of my resources.

  • Nancy says:

    8 years- wow, the time has flown! We are both rebound generation believers and would love to be a better example for our children!

  • Michelle says:

    We’ve been married 8 years and definitely could use some help.

  • Sharon K says:

    We have been married for 28 delightful years, but there is always room for growth!

  • Elisha P. says:

    My husband and I have been married 9 years and together 12 years. It’s been the hardest 12 years of my life.

  • Alice says:

    I have been married for 29 years and this sounds like such an interesting book, I bet I could relate to much of it!

  • Kelly says:

    We have been married for 3 years

  • Cathy says:

    I have been married for 12 years.

  • Liana W. says:

    We have been married for 6 years! Two kids later, we’re in the middle of buying our first house, and we still seem to be facing the same issues we faced in the first year of our marriage.

  • I have been married for 19 years and there is always room for growth and learning. EAch season takes on another update and renewal!

  • Rebekah W says:

    We’ve been married for 15 1/2 years and can honestly say that this has been our hardest.

  • Erica Leggiero says:

    We’ve been married for 3 1/2 years!

  • Mary L says:

    I have been married for 2 years, have a baby, and would like to strengthen my relationship with my husband.

  • Cindy Taylor says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this book with us…with so many book options available today, I am always thankful for a recommendation. We all can use help with relationships…especially marriage.

  • Carrie says:

    I have been married 8 years. We have had our ups and downs.

  • Janice says:

    We’ve been married for 21yrs and have 5girls who need to see that a Godly marriage is possible today!

  • Julia says:

    Looks like a great book to strengthen our marriage of 21 years.

  • Laura P. says:

    We’ve been married 34 years, & been together for 38 years. High school sweethearts 🙂

  • Grace S. says:

    24 years. Neither parents had a good marriage. Divorce is not an option but things aren’t always so rosy.

  • Katie says:

    My husband and I celebrated our 30th anniversary just recently.

  • Elizabeth B says:

    We’ve been married for 8 years! Always looking for wise advice on marriage!

  • Shirl says:

    We have been married 29 years and the last 4 yrs have been tough,since my husband was in a bad car accident-has a traumatic brain injury and constant back pain.

  • April says:

    My husband I have been married for 7 years. We have known each other for 15 years and I pretty much have been on love with him since then. It is refreshing when I see men and women who are willing to fight for their marriages. Always looking for ways to improve your marriage is a gift.

  • Caroline says:

    10 rocky years of what was supposed to be a Christ centered marriage.

  • Mistie says:

    Married 8 years, and both of us really REALLY really want to make it. So many obstacles but we know there’s something greater down the road – anything to encourage me in doing my part will help SO MUCH.

  • beth says:

    I’ve been married 2 years.

  • Melissa says:

    Almost 15 years 🙂

  • Beth Almeida says:

    My husband and I have been married for two years January 2015. We dated for several years before we got married (6 years!) and we are expecting our first baby by the last week in January or the first week of February. I believe that investing the time to read this book and apply the advice to my marriage will keep us strong as a couple and as parents and that we can raise children with solid values and morals directly from the Bible. Plus, I just love Darlene!!

  • Sherri Comer says:

    My husband and I have been married 37 yrs,through the good times and the not so good times The Lord has always carried us threw and we praise Him for His loving care.

  • Leslie says:

    I’ve been married 25 years and it’s been a challenging journey.

  • Laura says:

    18 years. I would love to learn the ways she has found beautiful love through all the messy.

  • Ashley C says:

    We’ve almost been married 6 years and I’ve been looking for a book like this as our marriage has transformed over the past year


  • R G says:

    This is our 12th year of marriage. Thank you for this giveaway.

  • Pam says:

    I’ve been married 21 years . . . that sounds much longer than its felt!

  • Desi-Ann Gordon says:

    I have been married 10 years.

  • Colette S says:

    We’ve been married for almost 11 years.
    We are struggling.
    This might be helpful.

  • We will celebrate our 20th anniversary June 3rd.

  • Esther Shankland says:

    We have been married 6 years. What a great giveaway! Thanks so much. 🙂

  • Cathy Lange says:

    18 years of marriage!

  • Jennifer says:

    We’ve been married 15 years and have 8 children. The book sounds great for continuing to build our relationship in the middle of all the business.

  • Bertha Sommers says:

    We are only a few months away from completing our first 3 years…it’s been very adventurous and challenging since we are married with completely different cultures, growing up in different countries with different cultures… 🙂

  • Christine says:

    Married 2 1/2 years but been together 7.

  • Jennifer J says:

    10 years!

  • Patrice says:

    Everyone could use a little help sometimes! Especially with the ones you love.

  • Heather says:

    18 years of marriage.

  • stacy says:

    29 years, and there is always room for improvement 🙂

  • Kimberly Crowe says:

    20 years. Always eager for improvement.

  • Tiffany says:

    My husband and I were married for 3 years (we were 19 and 20), got divorced, then 3 months later Jesus restored our marriage and we got remarried and will celebrate 11 years in a couple of weeks!! God has been so kind to us.

  • Carol G says:

    I’ve been married for 30 years. Why I would love this book is because I always think there is more to learn about being married. And to know we haven’t been alone in our struggles/real life things. And we teach a marrieds class at our local family mission. Sometimes the couples are there for several months so we are always looking for other books to use for class.
    Thanks for the giveaway.

  • Maclyn Gilley says:

    Love the author and can’t wait to read this book!!! Would LOVE to win this! Thank you for the giveaway!!!!

  • Marci H. says:

    My husband and I have only been married 3 1/2 yrs. He, at age 49, had never been married before and I had been married once before but for only 11 months and I was a single mom for almost 10 years before we met. He’s very afraid for our marriage since we’re from 2 different backgrounds. We both feel God led us together, but its a constant struggle. We could use some encouragement, some blessings come our way.

  • Cora says:

    17 years & struggling 🙁 We are so far from God’s plan and downward spiraling

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